stop-gap measures are not a bad thing, but i think there are more effective stop-gap measures than creating new legal genders
i say this as someone for whom, even if it were safe for me to put “non-binary” on all my documentation (which it… would not be, realistically), it’s extremely unlikely such a gender option would even be accessible bc of my position within the medical/psychiatric system. i can imagine similar barriers for other people: (un)documented status, class, race, transmisogyny, gatekeeping around acceptable notions of non-binariness, etc. i want people to interrogate who such a measure would actually help
legal gender markers are and always have been a means of control. they allow heteropatriarchy to operate smoothly through the strict categorization of a population. they allow the state to surveil populations, control populations, collect information on populations, (mis)allocate resources throughout populations. this is quite literally legal gender’s only purpose. it serves no function except as a tool of state control over women, over trans people, over queer people.
i understand and sympathize with the scramble for legitimacy under the law. but the law itself is rotten, and the law hates me, and i have no interest in vying for its recognition.
i propose that instead of playing by the rules of legal gender - and, in doing so, admitting its legitimacy and according it more power within our lives, allowing the categorization of sex and gender to pass for something not wholly evil and destructive to our well-being, for something that should be assimilated into rather than rejected altogether - a better allocation of time, resources and rage would be towards the end of reducing the scope of legal gender. petition to shrink the arenas in which legal gender is allowed to be relevant. petition to reduce access by other people to information about legal gender. petition to eliminate the observation and recording and policing of legal gender as a requirement for fucking everything. petition to expose legal gender for the invasion that it is.
i don’t fault people for wanting to be recognized as real but i do not relate at all to the activism of Being Better Observed By The State
this is a good clarification of the context i made that post in
for what it’s worth: i have no intention of changing my legal gender, i have no desire for and a lot of fear of being legally male, and while being legally female is not a great solution, neither would being legally nonbinary, i am pretty Grossed Out by that kind of identity being canonised within law, and it sounds like exactly the kind of thing people would point to and say, we don’t need to eradicate legal gender! look at this great option
someone called it the gay marriage of trans politics and they were exactly on the money
romythered said: you fools. what have you done.
amtny hugging chad comfortingly and meaning it <—-a thing I have talked about. I used to have her as hating him. what happened. why
scisolaris said: its a real problem
we were young. we were foolish. we looked at this world we had, this paradise, where chad sympathized with no one and no one sympathized with him, and we threw it away without ever realizing what we were losing
all the depth we give him does not change his terrible outward aspect. is it right to make an awful man deserving of pity? is it right to make this trash heap of a boy capable of being something more? such traits, such flaw and weaknesses, only serve to stay our hand when we should rightfully lay down heavy punishment.
chad did not deserve nice things, but now we cannot in good conscience deny him them. what have we done?
next up: advocating for building non-binary-only prisons
this is actually close enough to real suggestions i have seen that i feel the need to clarify that i’m joking and this would be the worst idea ever
can we get non-binaries in the army? excuse me? non-binary cops? where are the non-binary cops. please! all i want is to see some non-binaries controlling banks